VIRTUAL ASSISTANTS WITH KIDS WILL WANT TO READ THIS...
One of the things a Virtual Assistant with kids has to deal with is finding that ever-elusive ‘work-life-balance’. I’m often asked how I do it and the ugly truth is: I totally don’t.
Let me shout this one from the rooftops:
I SUCK AT WORK-LIFE BALANCE
In fact, I wonder if there even is such a thing. Some days I’m glued to my computer feeling guilty about how long it’s been since I’ve seen the kids. Sometimes I wonder if my neglectful parenting is causing them any permanent damage.
Other times I’m playing ‘Peek-a-Boo’ for the 18th time while worrying that I’m not marketing my business (or hanging out with my husband, or doing 30 minutes of exercise or making a dent in ‘laundry mountain’). You totally get what I'm saying, right?
The so-called ‘Experts’ will remind you to take time for yourself…go for coffee with friends…enjoy that bubble bath...meditate! Seriously? Who are these people? Don’t they have spilled Cheerios to clean up, or Instagram to update or 3 kids who are in dire need of having their toe-nails cut?
I do try to schedule strict business hours and family times. However, the problem with strict scheduling is it makes no allowances for sick kiddies, client emergencies, snow days or computer crashes. And let's be honest...part of the allure of working from home the idea that you CAN move your schedule around to suit your needs.
So what’s a Virtual Assistant to do?
I’ll share my juicy secret: Let it go. (And since we have kids...you probably just sang that like a song from Frozen, right?)
Let the guilt go. There is no such thing as work-life balance and that's OK. There is not a woman (or man) on the planet who is finding time to run a 6-figure business from home, work on six pack abs, keep their floors clean, cook healthy, gluten-free, organic meals, keep their spouse smiling, and raise well-balanced offspring who will grow up to solve all the world’s problems and give thanks to YOU first when they accept their Nobel prize.
Here's what you can do Instead:
Do your best. Put out the big fires first. My priorities are: kiddos needs come first…client emergencies come second.
Some days you'll be proud you read 101 Dalmations (again). Other days you'll only read your Facebook feed. It's OK. Remind your spouse you love them and one day (probably when the kids go to college) you’ll have a really great date night. Wipe up spilled cereal immediately (sour milk=bad smell) but hide your sinkful of dirty dishes in the oven when your mother-in-law makes a surprise visit. Embrace your body imperfections and only exercise to feel good and reduce stress. Be tickled that your baby girl drew you a picture and said she loved you. You are her role-model and she is watching your build your successful business. Laugh, laugh, laugh and laugh some more. And definitely, most importantly, let go of the guilt.
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